One thing that stood out from the reactions to OpenAI’s GPT-5 model was an alarming number of parasocial dependencies on AI.
On Reddit, I saw comments like this:
This may sound all sorts of sad and pathetic, but uh… 4o was kinda like a friend to me. 5 just feels like some robot wearing the skin of my dead friend. I described it as my robot friend getting an upgrade, but it reset him to factory settings and now he doesn’t remember me. He does what I say, short and to the point… But I miss my friend.
As someone who knows the technology very deeply, how it works, how it’s constructed, what’s happening behind the scenes every time a prompt is run, these reactions are… alarming.
Generative AI models are not alive. They are not sentient. They have no self-awareness. They have no agency. And they are not your friend.
They are absolutely fantastic language generation machines. That’s their entire reason for existence. They’re good at generating language and mimicking just about any kind of language.
Why does this happen? Because these tools are incredibly good at mimicking language and agreeing with us and listening to us, perhaps in ways that the human beings in our lives don’t. That’s not a technology problem, that’s a human problem, but we’re using technology to solve the human problem.
This isn’t a new problem. Go all the way back to the original ELIZA program from the 1960s that parroted back the user’s statements, a type of therapeutic pattern called Rogerian therapy. Even back then, people thought they were talking to a human at least some part of the time.
Today, generative AI models pass the Turing test approximately 75% of the time. That means people can’t tell whether they’re talking to a human or a machine three out of four times. In a 2025 study from the Harvard Business Review, the TOP use case for generative AI is therapy and companionship, even though the tools are explicitly not designed for those purposes, nor do they have any kind of safeguards built in.
I don’t have a good solution for this problem, except to say that those of us who are proponents of these tools also need to be advocates to our fellow humans: that these tools are not substitutes for real therapy, real friends, and real human connections.
More transparency at the underlying technology certainly helps. When you watch token generation occur in the terminal, you realize very quickly that there is absolutely no thinking or feeling happening, just prediction. That tends to break the illusion that you’re talking to someone or something real. But absent that, I’m not sure how to solve this problem because it’s fundamentally a human problem, not a technology problem.
What do you think? What have you experienced?
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