What you find at the end of the path

11 years on the path

Over the weekend, I had the privilege to attend the 15th and final New England Warrior Camp, a previously-annual event held by Ken Savage of the Winchendon Martial Arts Center and one of the finest martial arts training opportunities ever to be held. I’ve managed to attend 14 out of the 15 years and it’s always been of tremendous benefit to my personal growth.

There were many lessons over the weekend, but one especially powerful and useful one I think is worth sharing immediately. Know and revisit your personal places of power as often as you can. For example, there’s a place up in the woods of Sudbury where I took my black belt test. It’s a powerful place to me, where so much energy burned away the parts of me I wanted to leave behind. Whenever you have doubts about yourself, about what you’re capable of, go back to your places of power, places of great accomplishment, and discard your self-doubt.

Ken has this wonderful comparison of life as a wheel. Imagine taking a calendar and seeing it as a wheel; every full turn of the wheel is a year’s time. We forget often that even though the wheel turns and we see another month’s name appear, we’re a year further down the path than we were the last time we saw that month name appear.

Now, 15 years later, we’re at the end of this particular path, and I found someone there waiting for me that I didn’t expect to meet: me, today. If you had asked me 15 years ago what my future would look like, I would have been completely wrong on virtually every count. If you had asked me whether I thought I would have earned my black belt, spoken in front of thousands of people and taught digital marketing to tens of thousands of people online, had a wonderful home with great family and friends, I would likely have thought you were more than a little crazy.

I thank my teachers like Ken Savage and Mark Davis of the Boston Martial Arts Center for helping me explore, challenge, and develop not only my warrior spirit, but me as a human being. This path has come to an end, the path of New England Warrior Camp. Now it’s up to us to find the path for ourselves going forward and share it with those who want to travel it.

Here’s the good news, if you think that the martial path might be for you: there are plenty of places to find it, especially in the New England area.

Dayton Quest Center in Dayton, OH
Boston Martial Arts in Boston, MA
Winchendon Martial Arts in Winchendon, MA
Shinobi Martial Arts in Plaistow, NH


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Our conditions define us

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I was reading with interest last night about the mayor of Phoenix taking the SNAP challenge, in which he lived on the same budget as any family using SNAP (Supplementary Nutritional Assistance Program, or food stamps). The challenge is effectively to live on $4.16 per day of food. His comments on Day 4 of the challenge were what got me thinking:

“OK- ran out the door today with no time to scramble eggs or even make a sandwich. So I’m surviving on an apple and handful of peanuts, and the coffee I took to the office until dinner. I’m tired, and it’s hard to focus. I can’t go buy a sandwich because that would be cheating- even the dollar menu at Taco Bell is cheating. You can’t use SNAP benefits at any restaurants, fast food or otherwise. I’m facing a long, hungry day and an even longer night getting dinner on the table, which requires making EVERYTHING from scratch on this budget. It’s only for a week, so I’ve got a decent attitude. If I were doing this with no end in sight, I probably wouldn’t be so pleasant.”

Stanton experienced first-hand what psychologist Abraham Maslow described as the hierarchy of needs in 1943. When you’re in survival mode, you don’t have the mental bandwidth to do much more than keep on grinding until the next day.

In many respects, poverty is a set of conditions. It’s absolutely a mindset, but that mindset is defined by the conditions around you, which is why people can’t just “not be poor” despite what some politicians in Washington might think. We live in an age where mental acuity is one of the defining factors of success. If you cannot get adequate nutrition, fitness, and sleep, your acuity suffers, and over the long term, your career and life suffer. More important, it becomes increasingly difficult for you to escape poverty the longer you’re in poor conditions.

The easiest comparison is gardening. If you plant even the best quality seeds in arid sand, you’re not getting a garden, period. Conversely, if you plant a relatively average pack of seeds bought at the local big box store in good soil with the right amounts of sunlight and water, you’ll have a nice garden. Yes, some of the seeds will be duds, but the majority of them will do okay, and a few will really explode.

If you’ve ever owned a dog, you know this to be true as well. The sweetest breed of dog will still lash out and hate humans when it’s abused. Conversely, dogs with a reputation as being vicious will be total softies in a home where all their basic needs are met and they’re loved by their owners. Ask any pit bull owner that owns a pit bull as a pet (and not as a guardian) how vicious their snoring lapdog is.

To end poverty as a society, the conditions in which the poorest people live must change so that they can start to make advances in their lives. If we can change their conditions, we might just get those seeds of humanity to grow.


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Farewell, Maki

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Maki was born in April of 2001, presumably by a breeder trying for a pure Chartreux cat. I got her from the local animal shelter, the victim of a marketing problem – she had a small patch of white fur beneath her chin which made her, for show purposes, a sub-standard member of her breed. Whichever breeder created her was obviously angry about this and abused her before abandoning her to be found by one of the no-kill shelters in the area.

It took a very long time for her to get over her distrust of human beings, but she eventually did, and I hope that the remaining 11 years in a life of comfort, love, and satisfaction made up for the first few months of abuse. Maki died peacefully in her favorite cat bed with her toys nearby, no signs of illness or anything. She just stopped and moved along to her next life. As ways to leave this one go, that’s not bad at all.

As a Buddhist, I’m thankful to her for teaching that forgiveness is possible even with terrible crimes, and wish her a speedy and fortuitous rebirth. Certainly, the smiles, laughs, and love she helped to create with me and my family should contribute heavily in her favor and karma, even if she did kill a few mice along the way.

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I hope to see you again soon, Maki. I’ll be on the lookout for a new kitten that seems familiar, likes matzah, and adores catnip.

For the rest of us still in this lifetime, Maki’s final lesson reminds us that we never have as much time as we need or want, so spend what you do have loving and being loved. Anything less is wasting a precious, irreplaceable resource.


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