If you want to improve your life, listen to people who will help you achieve the success you want. You don’t necessarily have to cut toxic people out of your life, but you can choose to listen to different, more helpful voices.
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A man is known by the company he keeps.
This is, of course, from ESOP of Aesop’s Fables 2500 years ago.
And a whole bunch of motivational speakers and gurus and stuff have picked up various versions of this over the years, and put their own spin on it.
The one that you’ll hear most often these days is something from you hear a lot from the sort of the tech, bro crowd, you become the average of the five people you hang out with the most right, the five people you surround yourself with the most.
And the advice that people give frequently is, if you want to be more successful, hanging out with more successful people, if you want to be happy, you’re hanging out with happier people.
And there is some truth to that.
Certainly, if you you know, financial success is something that’s important to you.
By default, if you’re hanging out with more successful people who financially you will probably see and hear things from them that would give you ideas, or practices or processes that you could use in your own life to to improve your your financial standing, you know, you’re hanging out at the bar.
And your friends get to a discussion about cash flow analysis, and how positive cash flow is everything.
If your your cash flow is positive, then you’re on your way to wealth, if your cash flow is negative, doesn’t how much money you have, you will eventually lose it all because that’s the way cash flow works.
However, that advice that you become the, the average of the five people you hang out with most is often accompanied by very, very Pat, almost casual advice, that can be very difficult and disheartening for people and that advice is, well, you know, if you’re, if you’re not hanging out with successful people, get rid of them, get them out of your life, you know, if you’re hanging on negative people, get them out of your life, you know, cut those people out of your life.
And, again, there is truth to that, if you are have friends who are very toxic people, it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to spend less time with those folks.
However, and this is the challenge with this advice.
Not everyone’s circumstances allow them to make those dramatic changes, at least not quickly, particularly if the person or people that you have in mind that are creating challenges for you are people that you actually care about, you know, a parent, a child, a sibling, a dear friend from from years past, to just run with that advice blindly say, Yeah, you’re out of my life you’re out of here, is not necessarily all that practical.
So here’s a slightly different spin.
Instead of focusing on the five people you hang out with the most right, and the company that you keep, think about who you listen to most who are the five people you listen to the most.
And again, if those five people are people that are putting a lot of less helpful stuff in your head, listen to different people.
And I don’t mean, you know, remove them from your life.
I mean, this lovely device here contains the voices of millions, if not billions, of people.
on Twitch on YouTube, on the podcast app of your choice, there is so much good free content from people that probably you’d like to emulate probably whose success you would like to have for yourself, whatever success means whether it’s better relationships, more money, more free time, better health, you name it, whatever success means there’s voices on this device that will help reprogram your head a little bit.
And give you more ideas give you a different way of looking at things.
So instead of worrying about the five people you hang out with most, think about the five people you listen to the most.
And the majority of time that you spend listening to folks, is folks who are not helping you achieve whatever success means for you.
Open this thing up, find that person or those people on YouTube, then their podcasts and their blogs or whatever.
And listen to them more.
Right? Find a meditation teacher, if you’re stressed, find a yoga teacher if you’re not feeling flexible, find whoever and use this technology use those voices to start changing how you want your world to work.
And you can do this without again having to make dramatic changes and you’re telling your mom you’re out of here ever you’re useless.
But listening to the people that will reprogram your head and put more and better materials in your head.
And again, you don’t have to go hang out with them.
You don’t have to buy their $599 course or whatever if they’ve got a message they’ve got have probably a ton of free content.
Take your greatest hits the stuff that means the most to you.
Download it, put it on your device, put in your earphones and listen, feed your brain with that stuff.
And the change that you’re looking for will happen over time, it might not happiness as as fast as I can hear, you just got rid of all your relatives.
But the change will start to happen as you get those different points of view as you get those different inputs into your head.
So a person is known by the company that keeps to some degree, but a person becomes the company you listen to most.
So if you want more of something in your life, listen to more of that in the on the channel of your choice that it’s out there, it’s waiting for you.
Go and get it.
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